your mindful life

 

There was no epiphany, and there was no enlightenment - unless you define enlightenment as no enlightenment, in which case there was a smorgasbord of enlightenment. There was just a cumulative sense of 'things' emergingprobably out of weariness with the autonomic toll, the irascibility, the distractibility, the caught-up-ness, the addictive tendencies, the shouting at my kids, the shouting at other people’s kids, the shouting at the parents of other people’s kids, the passive aggression, and the muttering at drivers on a particular stretch of road in a small patch of a county in a small country that was already in the full throes of losing its collective mind. 

Then there was rumination: that persistent voice yammers, yelps, and yaps. Until it got to the point where I had to ask: who are you talking to anyhow? Thankfully mindfulness offered some respite. Science helped too, with evidence for mindfulness as a consoling reality. For instance, the voice in your head? Science says it's been around as a default mode for a squillion years. That it’s not just me, or you, but that it’s got something to do with the evolution of the brain. Just getting to know that it's got something to do with the evolution of the brain is a good place to start your mindful life. Just knowing that it's got something to do with a design helps. Science also dispels the myth of mindfulness as a religious thing, or emptying your mind of thoughts, or chilling out. It’s actually more mundane than that: it’s just common sense. Although common sense - as a wit once put it - is not so common. 

Thankfully though mindfulness is good at elucidating - or riffing upon - common sense themes. For instance, turns out the voice in your head is a self-referential iteration of ‘I’, ‘me’, ‘mine’ (there's a feeling of common sense ness to that theme). Mindfulness also helps you realise you can tame the impetuous saboteur that is your puppy dog mind: although you’ll fail time and time again to do so. However, instead of getting desperate or frustrated about it, mindfulness will help you cultivate curiosity about such a perceived sense of failure. It will also encourage you to begin again and practice something called 'acceptance'. It’s not particularly easy to do this. It’s simple, for sure, but it’s precisely its simplicity that makes it so hard: accepting, with curiosity and the motivation to begin again, the liquidity of your conscious awareness. But it is what makes for a mindful life. It’s also slightly Jedi-like. Which appeals to the hero in me. 

Never forget that, there is a hero in you.

Next up is, taking your meds. Yes you have to meditate. Meditation is the boot camp. Reps for the mind. The training ground for responding rather than reacting. It’s what I particularly struggle with: keeping up the practice, skipping the odd day here and there, convincing myself that a lie-in can double-up as a body scan. None of that is good. It’s throwing what’s available away, like dumping plastic in the ocean, when you could put some effort into recognising the urge to litter but choose instead to make the ethical decision to recycle. Best to recognise that. Then begin again. 

Of course, you could go for the cognitive approach by acquiring a bunch of heuristics to bail you out. But that’s hard work. Not only that, it’s cognitive overload. It’s better to start with what your body is telling you. Ah, yes. The body. Remember the body? The piece of kit you’re attached to? You woke up with it this morning. Then probably forgot all about it. There’s a lot of wisdom in this guest house of yours. A lot of embedded poetry. The problem is, as the oft-quoted Joyce phrase reminds us, we live a short distance from our bodies. Then we shoot off down some conceptual highway. Thinking this, thinking that. Until our thoughts think us. However, it’s the body that will help us navigate that slipperiness in attention that you’re experiencing now, as you attempt to stay focused on reading these words. 

The body is where the work starts. If you practice detecting its signals you get to move toward an embodied sense of the attitudes of mindfulness: attitudes that distinguish mindfulness from other states of conscious awareness, such as flow states. For sure, flow states are profound but they don’t operate under conditions of kindness, curiosity, and compassion: just ask a serial killer, or any of the nefarious operatives employed by Mohammad bin Salman. Yes, I’m sure those guys experienced profound flow states - sinewy flow states - but they hardly made the world a better place. And that’s the ultimate thing about mindfulness: the way it dismantles the ego through its cumulative cultivation of compassion towards yourself and others. Its inwardness means nothing unless it leads you toward a willingness to be outward. Its 'metta', or loving-kindness, really does have the potential to make the world a better place. And that’s not fluffy. It could well be that compassion is part of our design. It’s just that we’re neglecting it, or we've forgotten about it. That we’ve lost some essential part of our better selves. But it’s eminently salvageable. Mindfulness will help you to remember your better self. Your basic goodness. Then you get to start again. 

This better world can start with you and your mindful life. 

Isn’t it  good to think that your mindful life - right here, right now - can do that? 

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