why it’s okay
Apr 6, 2019
The news is in ....
... it’s okay.
It’s okay you’ve got a hatful of habits. It’s okay to find out your feelings are ... well, just feelings. For sure, they feel like failings, but in reality they’re just feelings. Feelings that arise from the mechanics of the mind.
Just look at it that way.
Then, it’s okay.
Mindfulness helps. And no, it’s not some panacea. But it is a port of call. It’s got practical wisdom to it. And that works for a bloke with fair to middling mental disequilibrium. It does the job, meets the spec. It helps reframe perceived challenges - even befriend them, would you believe. For some there’s an ineffable sacredness to it. And that’s okay too. Plus, it can help you detach from the machinations of a mind that is more often than not beyond your control. Truly beyond your control. But it will help you recognise that. Then, after the recognition comes choice. And that could be political. Could be radical. I guess if it cultivates gratitude and loving kindness it pretty much is radical. After all, what are you going to do with this inner understanding? Best turn it outward. Create a truly Ventral Vagal State. A place where we can all breathe more easily. Otherwise, what’s the point? For sure, start with yourself, but then, as Pressfield would say, do the work. Perhaps start with your kids, or someone else’s kids if you don’t have them. It’s not a sentimental thing. It’s work. Worthwhile work. The work of neural plasticity.
Ultimately, it gives you permission to show up for this one wild and precious life you've been given.*
And there’s poetry in that.
It's the poetry of permission. The permission of knowing you can untangle yourself from the debilitation of a distracted mind, or respond rather than react to events as they arise.
In fact, it’s probably the most wholesome act permissiveness out there.
And, frankly, I feel okay with that.
* Read Mary Oliver’s beautiful poem here http://www.phys.unm.edu/~tw/fas/yits/archive/oliver_thesummerday.html